No matter who was at fault for the breakup, in order to get him back you will have to get your ex boyfriend to forgive you. If you made a mistake that caused him to end the relationship, you will have to face up to it. Here are expert tips to recapture his heart.

The first thing you must do is to look at what happened from his point of view. When a man is hurt, he is apt to crawl off somewhere by himself and want to be left alone. This is not the time to try to atone for what you have done. At some point you will need to apologize to him, but not so soon after the breakup. This is why he said he needed some space. Most men recognize their need to think before they act. Once he sorts things out a bit, he will be much easier to approach.

For the next several weeks, it would be wise for you to put as much distance between you and your ex as possible. Occupy yourself with things that will take your mind off him and the problem of getting your ex back. Take up some of the interests you had before you met him. Pursue the lifestyle, other than dating other men, that you had before you met your ex lover. Get back in touch with old friends and relatives. They will give you some much needed support, but be sure not to burden them by constantly bringing up the breakup and asking their advice. Be as much your old self as possible.

Your ex will be aware of your activities and he will be impressed by the fact that you are doing something constructive instead of sitting around moping and bothering him. Time is a great healer and the time you are giving him will be making him think of the good times you had together. No matter how badly he was hurt, he will begin to miss you. This will open him up to be receptive to your apology.

To get your ex boyfriend to forgive you, it will be necessary to show him that you have changed. If you were being pushy, he will see that you have learned your lesson by respecting his need for space. If you were smothering him, taking up other interests and becoming involved with other people will show him that you are learning to give him some freedom and he will feel less pressured to have to spend all of his free time with you. No one wants to feel that they are completely responsible for the happiness of another person. It can become quite a load to carry.

When several weeks have gone by since the breakup, it should be time to call him and offer an apology for your part in the split. Make sure you are composed and will not begin crying and begging at the sound of his voice. Do not elaborate or make a lengthy explanation. Just tell him you are sorry for hurting him, wish him well, and end the conversation. Your next challenge will be to be patient. It might take him a while to digest the apology, but in time it should recapture his heart.